Thursday, February 10, 2011
Posted by Zek J. Evets at 12:01 AM
I've been reading a lot of gender-based blogs lately, and the resulting conversations have gotten me thinking about my approach to gender-issues.
Despite all the double-standards recently, from rape to paternity to abortion to beauty (on & on) I've concluded that there's something in the conversation that inhibits a middle ground of compassion, where people share their micro-aggressions and gender-oppressions without judging, and especially without diminishing.
What is this X-factor? Hell if I know. But that shit has definitely got to go.
For my part, I've decided that instead of drawing comparisons, I'll draw conclusions.
Instead of talking about the problems with Feminists/Feminism (as I've been doing) I'll take my arguments directly to the people, directly to the problems in our culture, in ourselves that causes these horrible things to happen.
Wait, what horrible things? The lack of legally-defined rights for fathers in paternity/abortions that are consummate with their responsibilities. The harmful presumption of male aggression and violence, especially for Men of Color. The loss of innocent till proven guilty in rape cases for men. The lack of spaces for issues which affect a male majority or specifically.
Instead of complaining, I'll advocate solutions; like legislation; like dialogue; like acknowledgment; like talking instead of pretending none of these are happening.
And instead of being part of the problem, I advocate to be part of the solution. Because as trite as it is, it is true too.